And the you've seen the CES letter. Ultimately we broke up. I feel for you. Most likely, the relationship isn't going to survive your differences in belief. They are taught to refrain from smoking, drinking, or experimenting with drugs. For instance, you probably want your children to be baptized into the Mormon faith when they are eight в is your fiancee okay with that. I am more compassionate towards people who I would have stigmatized earlier. He will not be permitted to bless the child in front of the ward, for instance, so you will have to choose to forego that ritual or find someone else to stand in for the father, which he may not be comfortable with.
Now I try to put myself in his shoes and he has always had a problem standing firm in any decision so its hard for him to say no. A grandpa sense of humor and occasional clever line from an old movie go a long way. It is always a nice idea to plan for your date in advance. Have you seen southpark episode on Mormons. We keep "waiting" for it to get easier, and every year it just doesn't. This is wonderful and in accordance with the desires of a loving Father in Heaven, but it can turn a marriage on its ear, if the spouse is unprepared. Life is not perfect. But remember that it is also your wife's choice to obey or disobey, and that you have no authority over her as a person, either. Divorce would have wiped him out and he would not have been able to ever stop working.
Pay for the first few dates. This girl is also a real person, not a caricature of a cult member, and even if the ultimate result is a breakup, she deserves to be treated with compassion and respect. Doesn't leave many options here though but better than constantly having them push the church on you until you either give in and convert or break up.
I have been married for 2 years now and I'm concerned that if we dont work something out soon, it will only get worse as he dives into his profession even further. I would never ever choose a different path. But then when we do spend time together I have an absolute blast and everything just goes so well that I end up liking him even more. Every new set in our ward looks at him as fresh meat. There is the possibility that she will wise up over time, but not likely. A lot of shared hobbies, interests, life goals. On top of his work schedule, there are other demands on his time like his family and friends. I've luckily broken down my GF's defenses about the church a little bit.
